So much doesn’t make sense sometimes. You feel like asking why? What brought this on? Did I deserve this?
There’s always a reason.
You may not always be able to find it out right away. Especially if the reason is floating around in another person’s head [why they did something]. But there is a reason.
It won’t take away all your confusion or pain. You’ll still want to know what you don’t know. But remembering that there’s a reason is comfort in and of itself.
When you remember that there’s a reason, you don’t give up. Even if you won’t know that reason for some time–you can put down your search for the reason and yet not surrender. Because it’s out there. Very often more than one reason. They are out there.
And when I say that there’s a reason, I’m not talking about some divine oracle or anything like that. I’m talking about a reason that you always have the potential to know–a concrete, easy-to-understand reason that makes sense.
Understanding that there’s a reason and remembering to remind yourself of that when you feel like giving up will significantly help to change your state of mind. Take all the time you need to admit your confusion… and put it on the shelf. It’s ok. The answer is that there is an answer–usually more than one, and possibly millions. Just keep your mind open for the sense you can’t yet make, and know that it’s ok that things don’t make sense for now.