Things to remember when listening to somebody

  • It’s not all about you. In fact, it’s all about them right now.
  • The other person’s point of view is as valid as yours, no matter how crazy it might sound. In fact, if you choose to listen to it, it becomes more valid in that moment.
  • Nobody’s going to die if you don’t get your word in.
  • Words can only be used as weapons against you if you let them.
  • You ultimately have no control over the other person. Remind them that you won’t challenge their self-control, and keep yours intact. For they don’t have control over you if you don’t let them.
  • Anger directed at you is merely a strong plea for attention. Be thankful that somebody cares that much about your attention.
  • An insult is a cry for help and understanding. Don’t take it personally. If it’s necessary and safe, keep listening. You’ll see.
  • Even when somebody is disagreeing with you, they may simply be saying the same thing you are saying using different words and concepts.
  • You can’t make someone else listen. You can only choose to wait for them to be ready to listen.
  • You don’t have to defend yourself. Instead, help the other person understand.
  • Sometimes, a person just truly needs to be heard. Rather than being a burden to listen, think of it as a gift you can give.
  • When you feel like you might respond hastily to somebody, asking a question is an awesome remedy.
  • Expectations kill listening, but you will have them anyway sometimes. Just learn to put them to the side as much as possible.
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