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Kink, fetish, BDSM… what is all that stuff really about, anyway?

Posted on 2010/02/17 by Positive Mitch

Sure it has to do with the fun of role-playing, but much of the time it’s really about something way deeper than that: it’s about the power of healing, something that is so often so hard to get in touch … Continue reading →

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